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The Eloquent Woman: A blog on women and public speaking

Inspiration, ideas and information to help women with public speaking techniques, eloquence and confidence. Author Denise Graveline is a communications consultant in Washington, DC, who offers speaker training. Share your questions, opinions and ideas in the comments here, or on Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn!


Showing emotion when you talk--especially when it involves tears or tearing up--has long been a double-edged sword for women speakers. Speaking with emotion is usually a woman's strong suit, an advantage. Yet women (and sometimes men) who cry during public speaking appearances are ridiculed as weak and unable to control their emotions, particularly when they're running for election.  So are tears while speaking a bad thing?

As a speaker and presenter, and as a public-speaking coach, I find psychology among the most useful tools for understanding audiences, how groups work, and how I interact with them.  Now two women, a psychologist and a psychoanalyst, have shared their own public speaking fears--and the lessons they've gleaned from them.

When you're giving a speech or presentation, do you stay away from the audience before you start? It's easy enough to do: There's almost always a speaker table, the organizer to talk to, a green room or the audio-visual with which to occupy yourself.  You're about to impart your wisdom, you need some quiet time, you want to focus your thoughts one last time.

On the Stepcase Lifehack blog, these 11 paradoxes of being a better public speaker offer a near-dozen examples of ways you can turn around public-speaking dificulties in ways that aren't obvious.  But the author missed my all-time-favorite paradox of public speaking:  It's the speakers who have practiced the most who look the most unrehearse

When women experience difficulty speaking, or just speaking up, in the workplace, what can they do? A few recent articles suggest they toughen up--but at least one suggests that tactic may not work to their advantage when negotiating.

Look at the bottom of any blog post on The Eloquent Woman and you'll now see a new way to weigh in: Checkboxes that let you say "will try this," "afraid to try this," or "inspiring!"  Try out the new buttons on these posts that are among the most popular with readers:

Slides are always an option, whether you use or forego them.  If you haven't revved up or rethought your slide tactics, take a moment to consider these four options before you plan your next presentation:

Fast Company magazine offers this video with insights on why most TED Talks are 18 minutes and how to get yours to conform or just qualify for consideration, with some data on the most popular talks--the most-viewed talk, with 6 million views, was by neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor, who talked about her experiences after having a stroke (and she used a real human brain, spinal cord attached, as a prop).

Get Rich Slowly has been called the "most inspiring money blog," but today, I think it's among the most inspiring public speaking blogs.  Put down what you're doing and read this: In "How to Build Confidence and Over